In situations like this one, I always point my finger accusingly at the same party. Clark! Well, consider. He lies to his partner for at least about a year, and then he accidentally reveals his secret to her. She accepts the whole thing in stride, is not mad, admits that she may have provoked him to lie to her, and declares her love for him. And he sulks?
Lois rested her forehead on Clark's. How could she convince him that she loved *him*, all of him and not just the part that moonlighted in spandex?
Clark sighed and pushed her away. "Sure you do, Lois. I spill my heart to you and you get what you've always wanted... Superman."
What makes Clark so sullen is that he doesn't know if Lois loves him for
him. That is to say, now that Lois knows that the non-superpowered farmboy doesn't exist, she doesn't love that part of him (since it doesn't exist, since no part of Clark is non-superpowered). So now he can't know if she would ever have loved him for the non-superpowered guy that he wanted her to believe that he was. Oh noooohhh!!!!
Well, clearly - the problem here is
Clark. He must come to terms with who he really is, and he must dare to present himself as the man he really is to the woman that he loves.
Coming to terms with who he really is can't be easy for a man like Clark. Let's face it, he is an
alien. He really is. That is a hard thing to admit to the woman that he loves. Perhaps Clark was thinking that if he could manage to make Lois love the non-superpowered façade that he shows to the world, then that façade would get vindicated, and it would become, sort of, the real thing. Lois loves the ordinary farmboy disguise and the ordinary farmboy disguise becomes a real man. If Lois loves him as an ordinary human being, then he
becomes an ordinary human being. And then he belongs.
Well, newsflash, Clark. Things don't work that way. Lois can't make your Kryptonian genes go away. (Besides, are you really sure you would want her to? Would you really, really want to be absolutely normal and non-superpowered? Don't you want to keep your powers and just find a way to make your alienness go away?)
Being an alien has a lot to do with loneliness for Clark. As an alien, he is the absolutely only one of his kind on the Earth. Lois can't make that aspect of his loneliness go away. Clark must come to terms with the fact that she can offer him her love, her complete acceptance, but she can't change his heritage or his DNA.
She nodded. "Clark..." She stopped unsure of what exactly she was going to say. The emotion of the last few days came over her and tears sprung to her eyes. "I love you, Clark. I don't know how to convince you that I love all of you and not just the super part, but I do."
In the end, the solution can't be that Lois just pleads with Clark. She is not the one who must change her ways or her outlook here. Clark is. If Clark won't believe her, then maybe she should inform him, gently, that they should stop seeing each other for a while, so that he can make up his mind about whether he is able to love and trust
her, and whether he can believe that he deserves being loved by her for the man that he
really is.
Ann