I promised myself I wouldn't say anything else on the topic of deathfic, but... a quickie.
The TOGOM stories, where Lois grieves, aren't deathfic, because Clark survives. The recent spate of deathfic, as Nan put it, usually deal with Clark's grief and Lois's death. So in the world of Lois and Clark, deathfic preferably means death-of-Lois fic.
There is a whole world of Superman products and Superman continuity out there, beyond this fandom. In that world, Superman will never die. Lois, on the other hand, could definitely be killed there. So we have a big world of Superman, where Superman is sure to live on, but Lois might die. And we have a Lois and Clark fandom, where it has become increasingly popular to kill Lois. The only possible reason for this that I can imagine is that not only Superman fans in general, but also LnC fans in general, care less about Lois than they care about Clark.
All I can say is this: If I have to pick one type of story I don't want to read, just one, it would be a death-of-Lois story. Because I worry about the survival of Lois, but I don't worry about the survival of Clark.
Ann