So do I have any problem believing that a Lois Lane who has never met a Clark Kent/Superman would be flattered by the attentions of Lex Luthor and eventually agree to marry him? Absolutely none. I know "Lois"; I stood up at her wedding. It doesn't make her a bad person or a gold digger, and especially not 'deserving of everything she gets'. It makes her human.
I never said Lois wasn't human, of course she is she makes mistakes like all of us. Probably more than her share. The big difference with how I see Lois is readers and authors let her off the hook for those mistakes. They don't seem to see her as human in that respect since humans get what they deserve. If they're mean to others, at work and in private, they are ususally shunned and end up bitter and alone.
You cite the example of your "real life Lois" friend. I'm sure she can't just divorce the guy she married after two months because she's met someone she "loves" without consequences. It's unreasonable to expect that. She's paid for her mistakes with her life situation, unlike Lois who keeps getting a pass as long as she gets her soul mate. And why, given her marriage to a billionaire wouldn't one consider her a gold digger? She's been married two months, and now she wants to leave so what are people to deduce from that? She married him for his money, either that or she's fickle and I'm not sure which is worse.
As for love, I wonder if Lois even knows what love is. She "loved" Paul and went to bed with him. She "loved" Claude and went to bed with him. Now she "loves" Clark and would have been in the sack with him if he'd not had a few morals. I have serious doubts as to her ability to determine if she's in "love" with anyone. Lois has met someone who shares her interests and now that she has she realizes, "Oh God, I've made a mistake marrying Lex! And oh by the way I realy love Clark whose last name I don't even know." Yep this is a woman who has her feet on the ground!
She doesn't belong with Lex. She's not happy. She's alone a lot. She gave up her career. She is expected to change to accomodate her "important" husband.
Gee, poor Lois, she's been, by her own admission, married for two months and this little trip up north is the first time she's been without her husband. This is a woman who's alone a lot? Do you see what I mean by readers and authors making excuses for her? The
first time she's alone and she's ready to kiss, and probably more, a complete stranger.
As for giving up her career,
she made that decision on her own, she could have gone to any paper, she didn't have to get married because she was out of a job!
With regard to "accomodating" her important husband, what did she think was going to be involved with being the wife of a billionaire? Is the woman just naive or is she really dense? She dated the man for some time before marriage and I'm sure they did most of the same things they are doing now they are married. Was it not a problem then? Is she now bored with the parties and the jewels and the cars, etc, now that the newness of the situation has worn off. I think if that is the case that makes her a pretty shallow person. If she didn't want to have to accomdate her important husband then she should have refused his proposal. She didn't, when does Lois have to lie in the bed she's made?
I'm not sure what is going on with Lois , but it's not munipulation, not as I understand it. Women that are controlled or manipulated believe themselves in love or emotionally attached in some way to the controller. Some believe the control is for their behalf: he does (fill in the blank) because he loves me.
Lois found Lex attractive, his attentions flattering, but love for him not part of the equation. Why did our gal marry, of all people, Lex? A man she neither knew {her words} nor loved {again her words).It was'nt because she was "manipulated" into it, certainly.
It's nice to see at least one person who questions the "manipulation" factor. Lois wasn't manipulated through psychological means that's for sure, Lex romanced her and she accepted an offer of marriage. Losing her job is, as I mention above, no reason to get married so that excuse is unbelievable. For whatever reason she made a concious decision to marry a man, a very rich man I might add, and now that she's fallen in "love" once again it is time to break her vows to that man and end her marriage.
While a person may remain friends with a person who does this kind of thing, respecting this person is another matter all together.
Thanks to all for the lively discussion on this. I'm happy to see such spirited debate.
Ray
