I know this is a suckie subject, but maybe someone may pick up something. At work we were talking about rape and related horrible acts. I taught some of the girls a couple of moves to maybe help them out. My friend passed this on to me with the same idea - to maybe help at least one person.
Through a rapists eyes
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some
interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. Theyare most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or otherhairstyle that can easily be grabbed.
They are also likely to go after awoman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
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2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for
womenwho's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
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3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they
are off guardand canbe easily overpowered.
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4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in theearly morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
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5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is grocerystore parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number threeis public restrooms.
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6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman andquickly move her to a second location where they don't
have to worry aboutgetting caught.
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7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 yearsentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
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8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after youisn't worth it because it will be time consuming.
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9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or othersimilar objects that can be used from a distance, in their
hands. Keys arenota deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to usethem
as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it
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10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is followingbehind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a
question, like what time isit, or make general small talk, I can't believe it is so cold out here orwe're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their face and could identifythem in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target.
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11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of youand yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said hey'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed
that she would not beafraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
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12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of itand carries it with him wherever he goes), yelling I HAVE
PEPPER SPRAY andholding it out will be a deterrent.
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13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can byoutsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinchthe attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in theupper inner thigh -- HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told himshe used the underarm pinch on a
guy who was trying to date rape her andwas so upset she broke
through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guyneeded
stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you
canstand it; it hurts.
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14) After the initial hit, always go for the goin. I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts
it isextremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy
and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists
told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a
lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, & he's out of there.
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15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab hs first two
fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much
pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it
to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and
both knuckles cracked audibly.
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16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be
aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and
if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your
instincts. You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel
much worse if the guy really was trouble.
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Unfortunately, where I live pepper spray is illegal. I guess that's a good and a bad thing. Also, it bites that some people may wear a cup, so you can't kick 'em there.
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