I am kind of in between on both. My parents used to know i was a folc and that i wrote fanfic. Now they think I have long since stopped. The number of lies I had to tell them to go to the beach this summer with my folc friends was absolutely insane.
Since I don't have a spouse or even a boyfriend, they don't know, but the one person that knows about it all is my best friend and roommate rachel. This was not on purpose/ She caught me plotting stories in class once and begged to read it until she found teh stories on my computer and read them. Then once I was IMing Annie and she IMed me and i ended up typing my response to Annie into Rachel's IM window -- and it was feedback to a story part she had imed me. Let me tell you, that was embarrassing.
So rachel knows, and she makes fun of me a lot, but she hasn't told anyone else in a few years. She did use it as my "sister question" for the pledges in our sorority, but that's a whole other story. I seriously got her back with the question I asked about her.
This long story, written so to aviod studying for my final tomorrow, does have a point. I am mostly closeted, just about completely, but one person knows and teases me relentlessly.
Sorry for the typos and lack of capitolization. Typing 1-handed stinks