Gripping and beautifully written as always, Lynn. I can understand both Lois and Clark's POV here. Lois isn't likely to leave her son any more than she left Clark in Lethal Weapon. She doesn't shy away from danger. And Clark is trying to protect her as he does, despite knowing that she runs towards danger when others might run away (or wish she wouldn't).
Putting this story in the timeline that you did, you show that Todd does grow out of this stage in order to behave beautifully at his brother's wedding.
I wish you lots of luck with your internal and external struggles with your son. I, too, hope this is only a phase.
You are a hero in many of us mom's hearts, Lynn.