Okay, "L", I think I see what's happening here.
You've done an amazing job of showing us one really screwed-up woman. In fact, she's so screwed-up that if things continue on a normal path there is NO WAY that she'll ever recover enough to have any real, romantic, relationship with Clark. No way at all.
That means something else will have to happen. An outside force will have to enter into the equation. Something that not only forces Lois to recognize her 'inner' feelings but compels her to act on them. Something... like a really nasty wham.
I could speculate on what form this wham will take, but what would be the fun of that. Like the other gentle readers, I'll wait patiently for the worst to happen.
Tank (who says it may always be darkest before the dawn, but it gets pretty black around midnight too)