Elisabeth, I have not responded to your story lately, because I felt that it portrayed Lois in a too disagreeable light. I felt it reinforced all the negative stereotypes about Lois: she is a bitch, she needs to be taught a lesson, she needs to be put in her place by a man.
Thanks for your honesty, Ann. I know you're not alone in what you have said. I think Sheila has gone on the record more than once telling me that the Lois I've portrayed is too harsh and unlikeable. However, I couldn't see how a woman who went straight from the home Lois did to a war zone would display any soft spots. Since she also had been raped in the past I felt it would be extremely tough for her to let a guy like Clark past her defenses.
I also know that a few of you feel like my Clark is a doormat. But I knew if he tried to take her down a notch, she would write him off.
If I remember correctly, I remember telling Elisabeth that it's first incarnation didn't seem realistic enough. That it didn't have the right sound to it. So she cut out all the dialog and just described the scene. It solidified it for me and made it all the more chilling to me.
He actually told me that my bad guys were too nice. But I'm just a little nice girl and I can't write dirty words, so I chose to de-emphasize the conversation.
This is taken from real life. Maintence had gotten tired at the number of calls from the girls dorm about the mildew issue so, over one weekend, they, cleaned it as best as they could and painted all the shower stalls black.
True, but you forgot to include the introduction. "Rumor says..."
Keri, I'm so glad you chose to comment on my story. I also appreciate you giving my characterization of Lois the benefit of the doubt.
I was once almost raped - close enough to still be called sexual assault, and I chose not to go the legal route because I assumed (and probably rightly so) that he would never have been convicted because we were in a relationship. It took me 15 years to come to the conclusion that most men probably weren't like that. It took me another five to actually tell anyone what had happened.
I am so sorry. Words can't heal a wound like that. Fifteen years can't heal a wound like that, but I'm glad you have found healing none-the-less. I feel you have honored us by sharing this painful piece of your life.
I am ducking under the table for this one. I happened across a Korean website when I was looking for the Korean word for "no." I found their martial arts stuff fascinating. On their site they recommended practicing their pumsae every day. I should have known not to trust them when I realized they weren't using the English word for dojo.
Does anyone know a better word for ignorant little me to use?
And as if all that wasn’t bad enough, Ann, then we get the women who really do cry wolf - making it all the worse for the rest of us.
Actually, that happened to a friend of my family when I was a little girl. He was a high school teacher who needed to flunk two girls who were friends. Failing this course meant a failure to graduate, so the girls decided to accuse him of sexual activity with the idea that they would graduate. Although he got his name cleared, he ended up moving several states away. Tragic.
Thanks for all of your feedback. I especially appreciate you, Ann, for sticking in their when you disagreed with the way I wrote Lois.
Just to reassure you all. I know this is an unexpected twist, but this is not going to turn into a rape story. This is still the story of just-getting started Lois and already established Clark. I just wanted to lay all the cards on the table concerning where Lois has been, as well as giving Clark the opportunity to come clean about a few things he's been doing, as well. (That's the carepack thingy, in case you're wondering.)
Elisabeth
PS And if you do know the proper English term, please, tell me. I don't want to be Korean. I live in the Midwest.
