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Nancy, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine how difficult it must be to lose your mother. My prayers are with you.
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I'm so sorry to read this, Nancy. I would hug you if I could. I hope you have a trusted friend or two who will let you cry on their shoulders.
{{{{{big hugs}}}}}
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I'm so, so sorry, Nancy.
(((((((((((Nancy)))))))))))
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Nancy, I'm so sorry.
Give yourself time and space to feel whatever you feel. Sadness, grief, relief, happy memories, sad memories, anger, fear, hope: it's all real and all okay.
My brother is in the hospice stage of cancer. It has been an encouragement to me to see your honest sharing and the compassionate response from this community. Thank you for your openness.
I'm praying for you.
Michelle
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I am so sorry.
I was pretty numb when Mom died. My sister was angry and Dad was relieved. She had been through so much in the last several years.
Praying for you.
James
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Nancy, the various reactions James listed are all valid. And the permission Michelle is giving you to feel whatever you're feeling is also valid. People who haven't been through a long illness with a loved one often don't understand that some of the grieving is already done. When my father died, I was sad, but I also felt relief because his suffering was over, and his wife's burden of constant care had finally been lifted. She was so wonderful to him and for him for the last eight years or so, and I'm grateful that he had someone so kind and faithful beside him during that time. And much of my grieving was already done, because he slipped away a little bit at a time over the past two years. Every time I spoke with him over the phone, I could tell that he was a little bit further away from us, and it hurt. I'm so very glad that Lila (his wife) was watching over him.
I'm certain that your mother is grateful that you were with her during all that time, too. Again, I wish I could offer better comfort than this, but know that your labors have not been performed in vain.
{{{{{more big hugs}}}}}
Life isn't a support system for writing. It's the other way around.
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Nancy, I am so sorry for your loss.
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Nancy, I am so very sorry. Please know that you're in my prayers.
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Nancy, our sincere condolences. It is not an easy thing to lose your mother in any circumstance. At least her suffering seemed brief, which is a blessing. Remember the good times when you think of her. Artemis and Hubby
History is easy once you've lived it. - Duncan MacLeod Writing history is easy once you've lived it. - Artemis
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Nancy, I am so sorry to hear about your mother's death. May your memories of her bring you and your family some solace during this time.
Clark: "You don't even know the meaning of the word 'humility,' do you?"
Lois: "Never had a need to find out its meaning."
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My deepest condolences, Nancy. May your mom and all the souls of the departed rest in peace.
Thinking about you, JD
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Nancy, I'm so sorry. Thinking of you and your family at this sad time. Tricia.
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I'm so sorry, Nancy. You have my deepest sympathy.
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So sorry to hear this news, Nancy.
I'll continue to pray for you.
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Nancy,
I'm so sorry - I just saw this as I rarely wander down to this part of the Boards. I'm so sorry to hear about you mom, but I'm sure that she has moved on to a better place.
I hope you have people around to help with the everyday tasks while you focus on yourself.
- Nancy
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I'm sorry for you loss, Nancy.
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I'm so sorry for you loss Nancy. I can't even imagine how hard this last week must have been for you and your family, you are in my thoughts.
(((((((((((Hugs))))))))))
Carolyn
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Thank you everyone for your kind expressions of sympathy. I'm still trying to get mom's estate all figured out and settled, but I think it's going to take me awhile.
~~Even heroes have the right to dream.~~
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Good to hear from you again, Nancy. If you feel up to it, I think we'll all appreciate if you keep us posted and let us know how you are doing.
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Nancy, my thoughts and good wishes are with you and your family. As others have said I hope that your memories of her will make this time even a tiny bit brighter.
Hug, Mona
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