Hmmmm, it's interesting to read people's responses. Some are so anti-Clark, and a few are so anti-Lois. And one is so pro-Clark. Thank you, Sara K M, you have explained to us so well why you so steadfastly defend Clark in this tale, and I'm glad you keep doing it!
Well, since I'm the biggest Lois defender in the world, I have to defend her behaviour, of course. (But first, why am I the biggest Lois defender in the world? It's because I became a huge Superman fan back in 1969 when I first believed that Superman was in love with Lois, and I have needed him to confirm his love for Lois ever since. And with all the other girlfriends he has had over the years, and between movies like Superman II, Superman III and Superman Returns and TV shows like Smallville it has not been hard to believe that Superman will happily treat Lois thoughtlessly and cruelly and gladly have sex with other women!)
So, do I approve of Lois's behaviour in part 90 especially, when she barricaded herself behind all those pillows in her bed and put Clark's bedding on the couch? No. And do I approve of her silent treatment of him? No. And do I think she should shape up herself and talk to him about what bothers her? Yes. But do I think she is less to blame than Clark? Yes, because it is Clark who has been so set on going back to Lana in five years' time, no matter what. He really has given Lois a five year 'advent calendar' of divorce angst, where each day brings her closer to the day when he will leave her. And as for barricading herself behind all those pillows and sending Clark to the couch, look what happened when she told him that he couldn't have sex with her unless he made a long-term - beyond five year - commitment to her. He responded by kissing her, and she couldn't stop herself from giving in to his advances. And now she is pregnant again. And he
still hasn't made a long-term commitment to her. If he keeps counting down to the day when he can leave her, or at least if she thinks that he is, then I don't blame her for trying to protect her heart by refusing him sex and intimacy. If the sex they had was half as good for her as it seemed to be for Clark, how much will it hurt when Clark just walks out on her if she allows herself to get used to their intimacy during their 'waiting period'?
And what if Clark takes their children with him, too? Remember that Lois was heartbroken when she saw that Chrisopher seemed to prefer Clark over her. I think she should normally be able to deal with that, but what if Clark actually walks out on her and literally takes Christopher away from her, because Christopher himself may want to go with Clark rather than stay with her?
And what if their new child is also going to want to go with Clark to Lana rather than stay with her?
In view of such possible future prospects, is it any wonder that Lois wants to protect herself and her heart as much as possible by maintaining the distance between herself and Clark and making herself less dependent on him?
But she should talk to him. Really, she should. I understand why she is giving him the cold shoulder and the silent treatment, but like Jenn said, it is past time for both of them to open the big bag of Conversations now!
Like Jenn, I'm happy about Lois's pregnancy. I do hope it will not be quite as hard physically on her as the first one was. And as for what things are going to be like between her and Clark during this new pregnancy, I loved what Lois thought to herself at the end of part 91:
I sighed and folded the paper carefully. I couldn't deal with another pregnancy like the last one. Physically, I wouldn't have much choice, but relationally...
That was a different story.
So true! Talk to him, Lois. You so don't want him to walk out on you. Fight for him, and I don't mean you should fight with Lana. 'Fight' with him. Make him see that you love him. Make him understand just who he is rejecting if he is walking out on you!
Ann
