While, I understand the other reader's perspective that Clark is selfish, I don't agree. (I suppose that doesn't surprise anyone by now.
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Do I understand this situation is tearing Lois's heart apart? Of course. I've never been rejected, so I can't empathize, but I can undrstand that.
I also agree that Clark IS expecting his feelings for Lois to be "all consuming" like fireworks, or something. I have to say that was part of my problem when I was "looking for love" with my boyfriend. It wasn't so I assumed I wasn't in love with him.
BUT this is why I don't agree that Clark is selfish.
Could we live together and parent our kids and be friends and such like we had the last year? Without the being in love part? Being platonic partners in a marriage?
Maybe.
No.
It wouldn’t be enough for me, I didn't think, and even before Lois said what she said, I don't think it would have been enough for her.
Both of us wanted the kind of relationship we'd seen played out in my parents' relationship, in Nana and Pop Pop and even Sam and Ellen before she'd died.
In other words, Clark doesn't think it would BE FAIR TO LOIS to remain in the marriage after the five years. Even though she loves him, she wants him to be in love with her.
Not to say with her because he feels sorry for her or something.
Clark believes Lois deserves someone who IS REALLY IN LOVE WITH her.
And all things aside, I agree. Lois would not WANT Clark to "settle" for her, just because of the kids.
Furthermore,
After last night, I had the impression that – for now at least – Lois wanted that kind of relationship with me.
It sounds to me like Clark believes Lois loves him, but it's not true love. It will be something she will have a hard time getting over, but she'll be able to do it.
Personally, I believe (and I'm sure most of the readers believe) that it IS true love for Lois.
But I don't think Clark understands that.
