Well, I just wanted to add, in respect to situations involving trauma and such, such cases as described are rare, and most importantly after the grieving process has not adequately given the person enough closure - usually persons who engage in such acts also have other instability in their lives, which isn't a case for either Lois or Clark.
Which means they would each be entitled to a normal grieving process.
They both have outlets in doing so, as well. So it means that they can and would follow a normal grieving process, no matter how difficult. (Lois has Perry White, the rest of the Planet, Clark has his parents.)
As well, there are other hormones involved in such *extreme* cases, like the mother stealing a child - (I feel like a psych major).
There is also an emotional level above that as well. There is also basis to predict whether or not a person will act out in such manners.
Such as, not having the ability to have babies over a long term which might lead to mental instability, and emotional undevelopment due to natural conditions, neither which Lois and Clark exhibit.
A person's actions always flow out of their established traits, which is why we can't always compare the actions of people.
What I'm saying is, what might seem out of character vs out-of character as character is usually rooted in periods of extreme change or instability, and unmet emotional needs that the person may, or may not act upon - I think that is also the question in dealing with Lois and Clark/Superman, in a long term basis.
It's also very predictable and usually has smaller patterns, which we do not find in either Lois or Clark. (Sexual healing?, being one.)
We do however, find a lot of anti-thesis.
It's much too extreme for them to act out in such an "out of character" manner in such a short period of time. It leads to many other questions about the characters, which is difficult to pass as out of character character.
It can, however, be action exhibited by different people, but that would be dealing with a case X vs a case we do know and are able to analyse.
Remember, Lois' immediate reaction in the show was to internalize her pain in response to Perry White. That shows a lot of mental and emotional stability to begin with and she wasn't despondent over the lack of intervention from Superman. That is also derived from popular TOGOM fic, but also not very accurate.
Anyhow,
Assuming such a position is very difficult, as Tank much more simply put it.
