Does not giving into a desire mean that the desire simply isn't strong enough? Frankly, yes. But I disagree with the word “cheapen”. Lois and Clark’s passion was electric, but their commitment to their promise was stronger.
Strong people like Lois and Clark don’t lose control. Loss of control indicates that nothing else exists but the desire of moment. It means fuzzy thinking, not knowing what you are doing, and I just don’t buy that for either of them. On the other hand, surrendering to a desire simply means deciding that the reasons why you weren’t doing something are no longer important enough to continue not doing it.
If Lois and Clark had made love before marriage, it wouldn’t have been due to a loss of control, it would have been surrendering to a desire – a conscious decision that waiting was not as important as being together. And the fact that they did wait doesn’t mean that the desire wasn’t outrageously strong – it just means their promise was stronger. And that is as sexy as hell, not to mention a great basis for a strong marriage.
