I'm glad Martha put Lois's POV in perspective for Clark. It's true he hasn't really looked at things that way.
I think Jonathan's idea of courting Lois has merit, to a certain extent, after all they do need to spend more time together. If nothing else, they should be friends. And it's true that one of the reasons why Clark loves Lana is because he knows her better than Lois.
But let's look at this again.
"And, if you want this to work, at some point you're going to have to get over that."
"I know, Dad. I'm just not sure how. I'm sure time will take care of some of that, but..."
"Court her. Take her flying and show her things only you can. Spend time with her and get to know her. You've known Lana your whole life. You two were inseparable as kids and even more so after you started dating. You know just about everything about her and she knew just about everything about you, except for the whole Kryptonian thing. That's something that you and Lois have that you and Lana never did. Build on that."
Doens't that sound an awful lot like "force yourself to fall in love with Lois"?!!!!!!
Love can never be forced. And Jonathan should really realize that. In fact, Clark is going to have to be very carefull that his feelings arent' forced because he feels obiligated in this story.
I understand Jonathan believes Clark is marrying her only because the baby is supposed to be his. And he believes in "till death do us part." So that's probably the meaning behind it.
But still...
I still think he expects Clark to snap his fingers and say "I want to feel this way, so I do." (ie - resentment against Lois, not being in love with Lana, etc.)
Seriously, this Jonathan makes me want to scream sometimes!
